28 March 2015

Let's Chat | Internet Hate

I try to keep this blog as positive as I can but in these chatty posts sometimes I have to address crappy topics like this one in the hope that you guys can relate and it'll reassure you that you're not the only one feeling this way! We've all come across bullying and hateful comments on the internet at some point, and I usually find it unbelievable that people can say the things that they say and think it's okay because it's online and they can't be seen. 

In the past I've had to deal with girls generally making comments towards me, and that is something that happened from my teenage years. It sucks that some of the things that were said to me so lightly and without a second thought, are actually things that have contributed to the insecurities that I carry around with me to this day. In terms of getting these comments online, I'm grateful that I haven't received them as much as I know some people have but of course there are a few people that have left some quite unkind comments, and all I could think was that it made no sense to me why you would take the time out of your day to state you don't like something. I mean when I don't like what someone is wearing etc I don't go to the effort to tell them, because at the end of the day they didn't wear those clothes for me, they wore them for themselves and because it makes them happy.

I've seen the comments come from young girls, boys and even grown adults, and to be honest I don't know which one is worse. What I do know is that there is a difference between saying that you don't like the shorts that someone is wearing, and saying that they have an ugly face or a bad body shape. Purposely picking on an aspect of a person that you know they can't change is just wrong, that's the face and body that they have and they deserve to be happy with it, nobody should have the right to tell them otherwise. Just remind yourself that the person you're saying things to isn't an emotionless being on the internet, they're a person with feelings, and you saying those things could potentially make them stop doing what they actually love. Putting others down won't make you any better so instead of picking out the 'flaws' in other people, maybe work on your own instead. 

Of course this post isn't going to make a big difference to the bigger picture of internet hate, but the more of us that pick up on stuff like this and talk about it, the better. If you're the kind of person who leaves those comments, then maybe you need to reconsider whether you're okay with being part of the reason why people develop insecurities, self-dout and even distorted self images that could potentially end up being life threatening for them. Next time you think to leave a comment like that, remember how you would feel if that was your sibling, partner or best friend, and if you come to realise that you're not okay with it then choose to actually say something nice or say nothing at all. 

If you're reading this and you've received comments about the way you look, your weight or the clothes you wear, remember that the problem is not with you, it is with the person who has nothing better to do with their time, so don't let them stop you from posting what you like or doing what you like. I have two younger sisters and the thought of someone saying these things to them and making them doubt themselves is honestly pretty heart breaking, so support each other if you see someone getting put down about themselves, and most of all don't let someone that doesn't even know you tell you who or what you are. 

I'd love to know what you guys have to say on this topic and if you've had any experiences with internet hate or bullying. Leave your comments on it below as I think it'll definitely help others to see they're not the only ones! Speak to you soon, hopefully on a happier note - 

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