11 December 2014

Let's Chat | Living in the Moment

Recently I've found myself in conversations, or overheard conversations where people don't really seem to be listening to each other. Instead it's more like they're just waiting for the other person to finish so that they can make their own input, or go off and do their own thing. I won't try to claim that I've never done it before because I probably have without even realising (who doesn't get ahead of themselves when they think they have something brilliant to say...), but I know that it's something that isn't made easier by technology and constantly being on our phones, and I want to get better at it.

It doesn't take much to know that without proper communication, problems will eventually occur in friendships and relationships, people will get fed up - most people say that having a partner/friend who actually listens to you is one of the most important traits that they can have, so it makes sense to try and be good at it right? It's easy to tell there's nothing romantic about feeling ignored half the time. I can't expect to be the only one when I say it annoys the crap out of me when I'm speaking to someone and they are trying to use their phones at the same time. I know as well as the next person how little you can concentrate on anything else when you're scrolling through that twitter feed so you're not fooling anyone there! Yeah you can hear someone talking, but that doesn't mean you're listening to them.

Obviously doing this once in a while without realising won't do any harm, but it seems to happen way more often than that due to the fact we live in a time where technology is what many people base their day around, and you will look around and people don't communicate as much because they're looking down at their phones. I've seen families sat in restaurants in silence because they're too busy checking their social media or texting, and to be honest it's quite sad to see from an outside perspective. Luckily for me, my parents have none of it when it comes to taking phones out at the table so I'm alright in that sense, but it's something I've been noticing more of, and the fact parents do it as well doesn't set a good example to younger generations.

My youngest sister is over 10 years younger than me, she doesn't know what it's like to live in a world where all this technology didn't make up such a huge part of people's lives, and it would make me incredibly sad if she wasn't able to live in the moment and appreciate things the way that I did when I was her age. So when I spend time with her or take her out somewhere, I try not to go on my phone at all, mainly so she can see it's normal to be with someone and not have them only give you half of their attention. It's what I wanted when I was her age so it shouldn't have to be any different.

My grandparents tell me all the time how different things were in their day, and that nowadays we never seem to be living in the moment, always focussed or thinking about something else, and because of that we are missing out on a lot. Life goes by quickly enough as it is without wasting half of it staring at a screen.  It's almost robotic and the idea of that really sucks.

I'm not saying it's a New Year's resolution or anything (mainly because if I do, it won't happen) but I would like to get better at just completely concentrating on one thing at a time, and you should try and give it a go too. Have a few hours or half a day where you don't use your phone unless you absolutely have to. As a blogger that can seem like the most difficult thing I could possibly ask, but a little while ago I was without my phone for about a week, I had to make do and everything was fine. I found it so nice to see how much more focused I was when people were speaking to me, and I felt a lot calmer without my mind trying to take on five different things.

I kinda wrote this out as I was thinking it so it might be a bit jumbled up, but I'd love to know your thoughts on it and if you've noticed it too!

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